They say you aren’t supposed to start any relationships in the first year of recovery, especially not with another addict! I see the logic in this now lol. When my husband and I first met, he was crazy!
I was in the process of ending a using relationship, the other guy just didn’t want to get it together. Jeremy (my husband) and I worked together in a call center and started talking, initially about my mess of a relationship. He was quickly intrigued by my loyalty, I wouldn’t agree to go out with him until I broke up with the other guy, no matter how many times he asked. Instead he started asking “Did you break up with him yet?” When I finally said I had? He pounced!
There I was, all upset and in tears over my break up, when he swooped in with the best line EVER! “I know what you need baby girl” he said “Dairy Queen and Christmas lights!” Ironically? That was EXACTLY what I needed!
I wasn’t too sure about him at first, he’s the total opposite of me, loud, not the least bit self-conscious, fearless. But I took a chance and agreed. He spent our entire first date asking about me, what guy does that?! By the end of the night, I was super disappointed that he didn’t kiss me. A few days later at work, I couldn’t stand it anymore. I grabbed him by the shirt, took him around the corner of the building out of sight, and laid one on him! It was the best kiss of my life, despite the fact that we were both laughing hysterically because I had stepped on his foot on my way in! Graceful, that’s me!
He asked me to marry him a month after we became “official”, and I spent the next 6 months or so certain that I was going to have to break up with him! Addicts are not very trusting, and he had been really raked over the coals by women in the past. He was a challenge, but I hung in there, and have never regretted it. In 9 months we were married and that was more than 4 years ago now, best decision of my life!
My husband is the most loyal, dedicated, hard-working man I know. He’s always trying to find a way to move us forward, and I love him so much.
Until next time, Eva
My M.A.P. to Success 